Tidbits to other parents #1

February 14, 2014 Ah yes, you must not faint, it has been too long since I have written here although believe me the silly thoughts have never ceased. But tonight the thoughts aren't so much on the silly side as they are on the serious. Are you a parent? As a parent have you ever had that moment where you sat back, looked at your spouse and asked, “Do you think we’re up for this? Are we really capable of bringing up these incredibly spirited, courageous, precious children without ruining them or losing them?" Sometimes it feels that the whole of Hell is raging at our door trying to suck them away from us. But, at the same moment I am fighting off desperation and tears are falling, I am filled with a simple thought that renews faith and hope. He would not have sent them to us if He didn't believe that we could handle it. Not to say that we won’t make mistakes but if we stay close to Him we won’t make any mistakes that will result in the loss of a child.And if HE believes in me, than I should too. There is hope. So, I was asked the other day by another mother if I could give any advice to young mothers what would the most important advice be? What would I tell them to prioritize and focus on. Let me remind you that I am still in the middle of raising my children ages 6 years to 15 years and have a a lot to learn still but I did not hesitate for a moment, I answered, “Make sure they know that you love them unconditionally. If they know this they will trust you when they screw up. You have to start when they are little building that kind of relationship. How do you react when they spill the milk on accident (it was a mistake)? How do you react when they spill the milk because they didn’t stop fooling around when you told them too (They were disobedient )? How do you react when they spill the milk on purpose (Open rebellion)? Yes, start now to pray to be able to love them unconditionally. I don’t think that kind of love automatically comes for all parents. Sometimes it takes work. I pray every morning to be able to see each of my children the way God sees them, because if I do I will never mistreat them. If finding out what their primary Love Language is in order to love them wholly is the key, then make it a priority. Make sure they know you love them and won’t stop when they screw up. Make sure they know God loves them and won’t stop when they screw up. Unconditional Love is Pivotal!